Opening prayer

  1. Let us begin by welcoming the presence of God within each of us.
    As we lift into the loving that joins us together as one, let us surround Bride and Groom with our love, our prayers, and our best wishes for them on this day, their wedding day, and throughout their journey together as husband and wife.

  2. Lord God, we call forward the presence of the Holy Spirit and the light of Christ to fill us, surround us, and lift us into a communion of loving as we witness and bless the marriage of Bride and Groom.
    Beloved God, we honor your presence within each of us. We know you through the divine spark of your loving, your wisdom, and your truth within our hearts, where you reside in pure and perfect love.
    Through our love and with Spirit's blessing we extend to you our prayers and best wishes for Bride and Groom on this, their wedding day, and throughout their journey together as husband and wife.

Remembrances & Acknowledgments

  1. At this time, Bride and Groom would like us all to remember with them a very special person, __________, a loving wife, mother, and great friend, who, while unable to be here with us today, is carried now and forever in our hearts.
  2. At this time, Bride and Groom would like to make a special acknowledgment of Groom's parents, __________ and __________, who are celebrating their fortieth wedding anniversary this very day!
    Happy Anniversary to you!
  3. At this time, Bride and Groom would like to extend their love and best wishes to Groom's sister and brother-in-law, __________ and __________, who are home in Santa Barbara giving birth to their first child.
    We send our blessings and best wishes to them and their new baby.

Readings & Songs




Family Vows


Symbolic Ritual




Ring Exchange


Final Blessing & Benediction

The Lord God said: " It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a suitable partner for him." So the Lord God formed out of the ground various wild animals and various birds of the air, and he brought them to the man to see what he would call them; whatever the man called each of them would be its name. The man gave names to all the cattle, all the birds of the air, and all the wild animals; but none proved to be the suitable partner for the man.

So the Lord God cast a deep sleep on the man, and while he was asleep, he took out one of his ribs and closed up the place with flesh. The Lord God then built up into a woman the rib that he had taken from the man. When he brought her to the man, the man said:

"This one, at last, is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; This one shall be called 'woman,' for out of 'her man' this one has been taken."

That is why a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one body.
-- Genesis 2 : 18-24  

Two are better than one: they get a good wage for their labor. If the one falls, the other will lift up his companion. Woe to the solitary man! For if he should fall, he has no one to lift him up. So also, if two sleep together, they keep each other warm. How can one alone keep warm? Where a lone man may be overcome, two together can resist. A three-ply cord is not easily broken.
--Ecclesiastes 9 : 7-9

Beloved, let us love one another because love is God; everyone who loves is begotten of God and has knowledge of God. The man without love has known nothing of God, for God is love. God's love was revealed in our midst in this way: he sent his only Son to the world that we might have life through him. Love, then, consists in this: not that we have loved God, but that he has loved us and has sent his Son as an offering for our sins. Beloved, if God has loved us so, we must have the same love for one another. No one has ever seen God. Yet if we love one another God dwells in us, and his love is brought to perfection in us.

We have come to know and to believe in the love God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him.

Love has no room for fear; rather, perfect love casts out all fear. And since fear has to do with punishment, love is not yet perfect in one who is afraid. We, for our part, love because he first loved us.
--1 John 4 : 7-12; 16; 18-19

    1. Bride/Groom, will you take Groom/Bride to be your husband/wife; love, honor, and cherish him/her now and forevermore?
    2. I, Bride/Groom, take thee, Groom/Bride, to be my wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee myself to you.
    3. I, Bride/Groom, take you, Groom/Bride, to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part.

    1. Bride, Groom, Child 1, and Child 2, you have all pledged your love to your new family and promised to love and nurture each other. 
      Love is something very magical. It is a gift from God that lights us up inside. And when a man and a woman join their hearts together in marriage, their lights flow together and a single brighter light goes forth from their united being.
      When a family is formed as an extension of this union, the light is intensified by the light that flows from the child(ren) as well. The happiness you feel in being a family together is a reflection of this. This light that you have, this happiness, comes from God. So when we love one another, we are experiencing God's presence in our lives.
      Bride, Groom, Child 1, and Child 2, you are divine and eternal beings, and as you come to know this, you will never cease to wonder and glory in your coming together as a family.
      By being a loving family, you will awaken your love for God and your knowledge of the fact that within each human being burns the spark of the divine.
      When people love one another with devotion and freedom, they kindle the awareness of that spark in each other as nothing else quite can do. Bride, Groom, Child 1, and Child 2, in joining together today, you kindle one another's divine light and promise always to do your best to see that light in each other and to nurture and tend that divine flame in one another as best you can each day, especially at the times it may be hardest to do, and the times when one of you may doubt or forget the existence of that light within yourself.
    2. This ceremony marks not only the union of Groom & Bride as husband and wife, it also celebrates the combining of Groom & Bride with his son/daughter, Child 1, to form a new family.
      {Child 1 is invited to join his/her parent.}
      Parent to Child 1: Because Bride/Groom and I are getting married today, that means that we three are becoming more of a family today too. One reason I decided to marry Bride/Groom is because he/she cares so deeply for you. So, today Bride/Groom is joining our family because we love him/her and we are so happy together.
      Bride/Groom to Child 1: Child 1, I am so happy that we are a family. I want to protect you, take care of you, love you, and always be your friend. I give you my word today before our families and friends as my promise to always be there for you.

    Candle Ceremony #1
    Bride & Groom, the two separate candles symbolize your separate lives. I ask that each of you take one of the lit candles and that together you light the center candle.

    {After the candle is lit, Rev Winter or an honored friend or family member may recite the following blessing}

    May the blessing of light be with you always, light without and light within. And may the sun shine upon you and warm your heart until it glows like a great fire so that others may feel the warmth of your love for one another.

    Candle Ceremony #2
    The individual candles here represent your lives before today. Lighting the center candle represents that your two lives are now joined to one light, and represents the joining together of your two lives and families to one.

    {After the candle is lit, Rev Winter or an honored friend or family member may recite the following blessing}

    May the blessing of light be with you always, light without and light within. And may the sun shine upon you and warm your heart until it glows like a great fire so that others may feel the warmth of your love for one another.

    Friendship Circle
    Bride and Groom have expressed to me the importance of actively involving all of you in their wedding celebration. We are going to share a ritual, the Friendship Circle, that originated in the Quaker tradition.
    In a moment, I'm going to ask you all to get up and form a circle around the chairs. Then, anyone who wishes to may share their thoughts and feelings about Bride and Groom coming together in marriage. You may want to offer them your blessing or to share a story about them, a reflection of a time you have shared together. Whatever comes forward is just fine.
    So now, let us form our circle of family and friends.

    1. These rings are circles, and circles are symbolic of the sun, earth, and the universe. As arms that embrace, these wedding rings you give and receive this day reflect the circle of shared love into which you enter as partners in life. May you always be blessed, and may you abide in peace and love.
    2. Wedding rings are symbolic reminders of the unbroken circle of a healthy and abiding love. Within the safety and comfort of a true marriage, love freely given has no beginning and no end. Love freely given has no separate giver and receiver. Each of you gives your love to the other and each of you receives love from the other. And the circle of love goes around and around. May these rings serve to remind you of the freedom and the power of your love.
    3. Rings are adornments, carefully chosen for their beauty and simplicity. They quietly sit upon our fingers, reminding us of the power of love and the pledge of the wearer to his or her partner to be faithful and true, and to nurture their love so it will last a lifetime.
      Bride and Groom, may these rings be for you always your most treasured adornment, and may the love they symbolize be your most treasured possession.

    1. Giver: May this ring encircle your finger as my love does your heart.
      Receiver: I will treasure your love always.
    2. As a sign of my love and my knowledge that in marrying you, I am becoming much more than I am, I give you this ring with the promise that I will love you and keep my heart open to you all the days of my life.
    3. I give you this ring as a sign that I choose you to be my lover, my partner, and my best friend today, tomorrow, and always.

    1. May your feet be firmly rooted in the earth. May the air you breathe be sweet and fresh. May your lives flow together like two streams into a graceful river. May the flame of spirit burn strong within you. May you know God's presence in your lives. And may God bless your life together.
    2. Bride and Groom, may the road rise to meet you. May the wind be always at your back. May the sun shine warm upon your face, the rains fall soft upon your fields, and, until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of His hand.
    3. Beloved God, source of love, light, and sound, pour your grace down upon Bride and Groom, that they may fulfill the vows they have made today through their love and faithfulness to each other. Bride and Groom, go in peace and love, seeing in each other the face of God smiling upon you and blessing you each and every day.