Opening prayer

  1. Let us begin by welcoming the presence of God within each of us.
    As we lift into the loving that joins us together as one, let us surround Bride and Groom with our love, our prayers, and our best wishes for them on this day, their wedding day, and throughout their journey together as husband and wife.

  2. Lord God, we call forward the presence of the Holy Spirit and the light of Christ to fill us, surround us, and lift us into a communion of loving as we witness and bless the marriage of Bride and Groom.
    Beloved God, we honor your presence within each of us. We know you through the divine spark of your loving, your wisdom, and your truth within our hearts, where you reside in pure and perfect love.
    Through our love and with Spirit's blessing we extend to you our prayers and best wishes for Bride and Groom on this, their wedding day, and throughout their journey together as husband and wife.

Remembrances & Acknowledgments

  1. At this time, Bride and Groom would like us all to remember with them a very special person, __________, a loving wife, mother, and great friend, who, while unable to be here with us today, is carried now and forever in our hearts.
  2. At this time, Bride and Groom would like to make a special acknowledgment of Groom's parents, __________ and __________, who are celebrating their fortieth wedding anniversary this very day!
    Happy Anniversary to you!
  3. At this time, Bride and Groom would like to extend their love and best wishes to Groom's sister and brother-in-law, __________ and __________, who are home in Santa Barbara giving birth to their first child.
    We send our blessings and best wishes to them and their new baby.

Readings & Songs




Symbolic Ritual




Ring Exchange


Final Blessing & Benediction

Let the earth of my body be mixed with the earth my beloved walks on.
Let the fire of my body be the brightness in the mirror that reflects his face.
Let the water of my body join the waters of the lotus pool he bathes in.
Let the breath of my body be air lapping his tired limbs.
Let me be sky, and moving through me the cloud-dark Shyama, my beloved.
-- Hindu Love Poem  

Rising Sun! when you shall shine,
Make this house happy,
Beautify it with your beams;
Make this house happy,
God of Dawn! your white blessings spread;
Make this house happy.
Guard the doorway from all evil;
Make this house happy.
White corn! Abide herein;
Make this house happy.
Soft wealth! May this hut cover much;
Make this house happy.
Heavy Rain! Your virtues send;
Make this house happy.
Corn Pollen! Bestow content;
Make this house happy.
May peace around this family dwell;
Make this house happy.
--Navajo chant


In our next life,
We will be birds flying wing to wing in the sky,
Or sturdy branches entangled with each other on the earth.
--Bai Ju-yi
Tang Dynasty, China | Translation by Richard Liu


Fair is the white star of twilight, and the sky clearer at the day's end;
But she is fairer, and she is dearer,
She, my heart's friend.
Fair is the white star of twilight, and the moon roving to the sky's end;
But she is fairer, better worth loving,
She, my heart's friend.
--Traditional Shoshone Love Poem

    1. Bride/Groom, will you take Groom/Bride to be your husband/wife; love, honor, and cherish him/her now and forevermore?
    2. I, Bride/Groom, take thee, Groom/Bride, to be my wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee myself to you.
    3. I, Bride/Groom, take you, Groom/Bride, to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part.
    4. I, Bride/Groom, promise to always keep my love for you alive and out in front of all I do. I promise to be faithful and true no matter what challenges may come our way. I promise to nurture you as my wife/husband, my lover, and my best friend. I will continue to love you and cherish you, walking through this life, together, hand in hand.
    5. Bride/Groom, you will always be surrounded by my love. From this day forward, I promise: to be by your side, to be your partner, your husband/wife, and your very best friend. Let my love comfort you always.

    Candle Ceremony
    This flame you ignite before us today is strong and shining brightly. May you tend it well so that it may shine throughout your lives. May the warmth of the love it symbolizes forever bring you courage, reassurance, and comfort and fill you both with strength and joy.

    Sand Ceremony
    Just as we have now bound (Bride) and (Groom) to one another, we will now celebrate the unification of (child/children) into this covenant. The couple will first pour their sands into the vase, showing that their marriage is the foundation of this family. Their sands mix together and symbolize their bond of love and respect that can never be separated. As (child/children) now add their sands, they show how the individual colors create a beautiful masterpiece of love and mutual respect. Though we are all different people, it is our individuality which adds a unique color to the tapestry of the family. Like the sands poured before it, so these sands will also mix and be unable to be separated.

    Friendship Circle
    Bride and Groom have expressed to me the importance of actively involving all of you in their wedding celebration. We are going to share a ritual, the Friendship Circle, that originated in the Quaker tradition.
    In a moment, I'm going to ask you all to get up and form a circle around the chairs. Then, anyone who wishes to may share their thoughts and feelings about Bride and Groom coming together in marriage. You may want to offer them your blessing or to share a story about them, a reflection of a time you have shared together. Whatever comes forward is just fine.
    So now, let us form our circle of family and friends.

    1. These rings are circles, and circles are symbolic of the sun, earth, and the universe.
      As arms that embrace, these wedding rings you give and receive this day reflect the circle of shared love into which you enter as partners in life.
      May you always be blessed, and may you abide in peace and love.
    2. Wedding rings are symbolic reminders of the unbroken circle of a healthy and abiding love. Within the safety and comfort of a true marriage, love freely given has no beginning and no end. Love freely given has no separate giver and receiver. Each of you gives your love to the other and each of you receives love from the other. And the circle of love goes around and around.
      May these rings serve to remind you of the freedom and the power of your love.
    3. Rings are adornments, carefully chosen for their beauty and simplicity. They quietly sit upon our fingers, reminding us of the power of love and the pledge of the wearer to his or her partner to be faithful and true, and to nurture their love so it will last a lifetime.
      Bride and Groom, may these rings be for you always your most treasured adornment, and may the love they symbolize be your most treasured possession.

    1. Giver: May this ring encircle your finger as my love does your heart.
      Receiver: I will treasure your love always.
    2. As a sign of my love and my knowledge that in marrying you, I am becoming much more than I am, I give you this ring with the promise that I will love you and keep my heart open to you all the days of my life.
    3. I give you this ring as a sign that I choose you to be my lover, my partner, and my best friend today, tomorrow, and always.

    1. May your feet be firmly rooted in the earth. May the air you breathe be sweet and fresh. May your lives flow together like two streams into a graceful river. May the flame of spirit burn strong within you. May you know God's presence in your lives. And may God bless your life together.
    2. Bride and Groom, may the road rise to meet you. May the wind be always at your back. May the sun shine warm upon your face, the rains fall soft upon your fields, and, until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of His hand.
    3. Beloved God, source of love, light, and sound, pour your grace down upon Bride and Groom, that they may fulfill the vows they have made today through their love and faithfulness to each other.
      Bride and Groom, go in peace and love, seeing in each other the face of God smiling upon you and blessing you each and every day.