Water Ceremony

Gathering Words

Hello and welcome.

The love between Jordan & Matthew is the reason we are gathered here today. We are here to celebrate their love for each other as well as the love that each of you has given them throughout their lives. As family and friends, you are the ones who have taught Jordan & Matt how to love. You have shown them the blessings that come through loving one another.

Having planted this seed of love in them, we are now gathered to share the treasured blessing of surrounding them with love and support as they embark upon their voyage of discovery as husband and wife. May your best wishes go forward with Jordan & Matt as they enter into the sacred and joyous covenant of marriage.

 

Charge for the Couple

Jordan & Matt, by entering into the covenant of marriage today you are declaring your faith in each other. You have indeed earned this faith and trust by creating a sound foundation for this marriage.

Your task now is to build on this solid base. Imbue your loving partnership with the caring, trust, vulnerability, and kindness that are essential to a healthy marriage relationship.

In dedicating yourselves to these values you will create a marriage that is a source of joy, in which you may both grow in love and find fulfillment.

Know that you will be tested by the routines of daily life, by chance and circumstance, and by the full cycle of the seasons of life.

Know that together you must encounter life's sorrow no less than its sweetness, its frustration along with its grace and ease, its disappointments along with its fulfillment.

Enter your marriage confident in the love and trust you have already created between you. As you go forward in your journey together as husband and wife, devote yourselves to living according to the vows you share today.

Keep your love alive with your openness to each other and your enthusiasm for each other. You hold each other's hearts in the palms of your hands. Be gentle caregivers, honoring this trust.

Let this be a marriage that enhances your individuality and allows you to know the greatest gift we have been given--the ability to love one another and be loved.

Is it in this spirit and for this purpose that you have come here to be joined together?

Jordan & Matt: Yes, it is.

 

Declaration of Support

Jordan & Matt, today we have come together to celebrate the love you have found with each other. By being here with you, each of us is declaring our support for your decision to join together in marriage.

As family and friends, you form the community of support that surrounds Jordan & Matt. Each of you, by your presence here today, is being called upon to uphold them in honoring and loving each other.

Always stand beside them, never between them. Offer them your love and support, not your judgment. Encourage them with your kindness and loving hearts, and honor this marriage into which they have come to be joined today.

 

Marriage Address

Marriage is the essence of human relationships. It challenges us to be of one accord without abandoning the truth of our individuality. It challenges us to recognize ourselves in one another, and to admire and respect each other while walking side by side heading in the same direction—sometimes so close together that there will only be one set of footprints.

As with all relationships, marriage is an endless presentation of choices about how we want to be with one another. Each choice is an opportunity for more unity. Choose into that unity, Jordan & Matt, every chance you get.

Sacrifice your judgments, expectations, and any other ways that you have learned to separate yourselves from each other.

Share the gifts of friendship, humor, vulnerability, sensitivity, and kindness. Be sure to find ways each day to protect, affirm, and support each other, and to treasure the balance and shared values that you have found with each other.

Enjoy the intertwining of your independence with your intimacy. I wish you the courage to keep your loving hearts open to each other for the rest of your lives. May the Universe shower you with many blessings.

Handfasting

As a nod to their Irish heritage, Jordan & Matt will be “tying the knot” in the sacred Celtic ceremony known as handfasting. In Celtic tradition, handfasting is the eternal joining of two people in love.

Jordan & Matt, please take each other’s hands, wrist-to-wrist, look into each other’s eyes and respond to the following questions by saying “We will.”

Will you honor and respect one another, and seek to never break that honor?

J & M: We will. { First cord is draped over the couple’s hands }

And so the first binding is made.

Will you share each other’s pain and seek to ease it?

J & M: We will. { Second cord is draped over the couple’s hands }

And so the binding is made.

Will you share the burdens of each so that your spirits may grow in this union?

J & M: We will. { Third cord is draped over the couple’s hands }

And so the binding is made.

Will you share each other’s laughter, and look for the brightness in life and the positive in each other?

J & M: We will. { Fourth cord is draped over the couple’s hands }

And so the binding is made.

{ Tie cords together }

Video showing How to Tie Handfasting Ribbons

Jordan & Matt, you are now heartjoined in Light & Love.

Irish Blessing

Sharing an Irish Marriage Prayer with the couple is READER, relationship to Bride/Groom.

Reader: May love and laughter light your days, and warm your heart and home. May good and faithful friends be yours, wherever you may roam. May peace and plenty bless your world with joy that long endures. May all life’s passing seasons bring the best to you and yours.

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May the road rise to meet you. May the wind be always at your back. May the sun shine warm upon your face, the rains fall soft upon the fields.

May the light of friendship guide your paths together. May the laughter of children grace the halls of your home. May the joy of living for one another trip a smile from your lips, a twinkle from your eye.

And when eternity beckons, at the end of life heaped high with love, may the good Lord embrace you with the arms that have nurtured you the whole length of your joy-filled days.

May the gracious God hold you both in the palm of His hands. And, today, may the Spirit of Love find a dwelling place in your hearts.

Amen.

wedding vows

Jordan & Matt, please share your Wedding Vows with each other.

Matt: Reading personal vows

Jordan: Reading personal vows

Prelude

This is the point in the ceremony when I usually talk about the wedding bands being a perfect circle, having no beginning and no end. But we all know that these rings do have a beginning. Rock is dug up from the earth. Metal is liquefied in a furnace at a thousand degrees. Hot metal is poured into a mold, cooled, and then painstakingly polished. Something beautiful is made from raw materials.

Love is like that. It's hot, dirty work. It comes from humble beginnings, made by imperfect beings.  It's the process of making something beautiful where there was once nothing at all.

Ring Exchange

May I have the rings, please? Matt, place this ring on Jordan’s finger and repeat after me.

Matt: With this ring, I, Matt (MIDDLE NAME) McDermott, wed and pledge you, Jordan (MIDDLE NAME) Pupillo, my love now and forever.

Jordan, place this ring on Matt’s finger and repeat after me.

Jordan: With this ring, I, Matt (MIDDLE NAME) McDermott, wed and pledge you, Matt (MIDDLE NAME) Pupillo, my love now and forever.

Italian Blessing

READER, relationship to Bride/Groom, will now share a modern interpretation of an Italian Wedding Blessing as written by author Barbara De Angelis.

Reader: When you make a commitment to a relationship, you invest your attention and energy in it more profoundly because you now experience ownership of that relationship.

Love is a choice you make from moment to moment.

Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day.

The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It's a choice you make - not just on your wedding day, but over and over again - and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.

The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together.

Final Blessing & Benediction

Now that Jordan & Matt have joined themselves to each other by solemn vows, and by the giving and receiving of rings, I do now, by the virtue of the authority vested in me, pronounce that you are Husband and Wife. You may now kiss!

Introducing Mr. & Mrs. Matthew & Jordan McDermott!!

The West, Autumn, and Sunset combine to represent the {Water Ceremony}. This well-organized and deeply genuine ceremony is customized with a profound concern for the welfare of the couples’ guests. This ceremony is swift so you can hurry up and get the party started.

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